Let’s assume you are very confident in yourself, but sometimes, you may find yourself in a position where you encounter an absolutely hipnotizing individual, and you aren’t quite sure how to flirt or start a meaningful interaction with said person.
Every encounter is unique, so how exactly are you supposed to know what that person will respond to? What one person might find sexy, another person might be turned off by. And if you are attracted to a complete stranger, chances are you will have no idea what they want to talk about – or how they want to be talked to.
What if there was a way to change all that?
There are some universally successful ways to flirt- which means you can flirt like a boss with a few simple tips and quick assessment of every opportunity.
Being a champion flirt isn’t nearly as difficult as you might think. All it takes is a little fine-tuning of some of the things you are probably doing already. Check out these reliable tips, and seduce your next prize!
- Eye contact is an art; staring is creepy. The trick is to get caught glancing. When you do, smile, look away and then casually look back again.
- Don’t cross your legs or arms when you have someone’s attention; this is a subconscious indicator that you are blocking this person.
- Standing or sitting, point your torso and feet toward that person. Another subconscious indicator, this action tells them that you are open to talking or engaging interaction with them.
- Smile slowly. Avoid a big cheesy grin. The slower the smile, the more innocent you appear.
- Ladies: play with your hair a bit. This is a sign of slight nervousness, which indicates to the other person that you are interested.
- Guys: you will want to display social dominance. Try extending your arm across the chair or stretching with both arms wide apart (stretching is only good once; don’t overdo it!).
- One of the most effective ways to flirt is with physical contact. First and foremost, it should be soft and appropriate. A slight graze on the arm with an “excuse me” or “pardon me” is perfectly acceptable when you don’t know someone.
- If you know the person and things are going well in conversation, you can try a soft touch to the cheek with a genuine compliment. Choose the moment carefully, and please…use your best judgement; let the natural flow of the interaction guide you. Do not force this! No one likes to be harassed or put in an uncomfortable or awkward position.
How to start the conversation
(Only use one of these options to start the conversation. It’s okay if the options naturally come up later)
- Say something cool about the event or venue. “This place is amazing!”
- Comment on the weather. Seems lame, right? Well it works, because that is something you are both aware of; common ground.
- Compliment him or her on some distinguished feature: an article of clothing, accessory or general appearance.
- Introduce yourself but don’t forget to end with a question. “Hi, I’m Leslie. And you are…?”
- If appropriate, ask for information or assistance. Only do this if this person truly has the information you need, or really can be of assistance. Don’t invent a stupid question or provoke an awkward situation.
How to keep the conversation going
- Make eye contact when engaged in conversation. Remember, don’t stare, but don’t look away too much either. The key points of eye contact occur during your introduction and when a compliment is paid. Never look away during these times!
- At this early stage, keep the conversation short; around five minutes. This lessens the chance of an awkward silence.
How to end the conversation
- Don’t end the conversation abruptly, for this will cause confusion. Slowly leave the five to ten minute conversation with something like “I should probably get back. Will you be here for a while?” or “It was so nice talking to you; I would love to do this again.”
You don’t have to be the hottest person in the room to flirt like a boss and be successful at it. The solution is to try one or two of these tips and continue to improve with more advanced moves, once you have mastered the first two.
Remember, it is not only natural to be nervous, it is also attractive and endearing to others. Now, you just need to find the right opportunity to get started.