Unless you’re on your honeymoon or traveling with your honey to the Island of Enchantment, your stay in Puerto Rico is bound to include women–as beautiful and enchanting as the island itself.
Your trip is also bound to include partying and drinking at Puerto Rico’s exciting bars and nightclubs.
Therefore, my friends, you better know what you’re doing when combining these two objectives.
Your status as a just-passing-through foreigner or young clubber could either hinder or aid your hooking-up efforts, so play that card wisely when meeting local girls.
A bar or nightclub can be a good place to pick up women if you follow a set of simple do’s and dont’s. There are no guarantees, but the following tips can drastically improve your odds.
PICK-UP DO’S AND DON’TS
1. WASH AND WEAR
Puerto Ricans shower at least once a day, so cleanliness is not optional. They also dress well, and showing up at a club looking like hobo won’t fly. Shower, shave, brush your teeth, use deodorant and a bit of cologne. Wear comfortable clothes that meet the clubs’ dress codes. If you look good, you’ll feel good and confident, and confidence is attractive.
2. LOCATION, LOCATION, LOCATION
Choose a busy establishment, preferably one with a dance floor. Once in the bar or club, don’t get stuck in a corner or at a table with your friends. You need to see and be seen. Move around and pick a spot with good visibility and high traffic. Adjust your location to interact with as many people as possible.
3. DON’T GET DRUNK
Picking up women is tough enough when you’re sober; doing it under the influence only makes it harder for you to score. Not only are you likely to fail in every attempt, but no one likes a slobbering drunk–except another slobbering drunk.
4. WATCH YOUR BODY LANGUAGE
Stand tall, gut in, chest out. Acknowledge your nerves, but don’t let them control you. Let go of your desired outcome, focus on having fun, and you’ll be more likely to feel and appear comfortable and confident. Don’t lean in when she’s talking to you. Let her lean in if she can’t hear you. If possible, lean back on the bar or wall behind you.
5. DO APPROACH HER
Greet women as soon as you get into the club. Say “Hi.” Start conversations. Don’t wait until you find “the one” to be friendly. That only adds pressure. When you see a woman you’re interested in, approach her (from the front, do not sneak up on her), say hello and introduce yourself. Be nice. The worst thing that can happen is that she may not be interested. Move on, and try someone else.
6. AVOID PICKUP LINES
This is one sure way of crashing. Pickup lines are lame. Women hate them. By their very nature, they’re dishonest, and that’s a turnoff for women. You need to come across as genuine, not fake. If you have a sense of humor, use it. If you don’t, then just be friendly. Faking a sense of humor will kill any chances you have to hook up.
7. OFFER TO BUY HER A DRINK
It shows you’re interested and willing to spend some time getting to know her. Do not, however, buy her a drink beforehand and approach her with it. That move may come across as pushy, pretentious and even threatening, as some women may think you’re trying to drug them.
8. LISTEN WHEN SHE SPEAKS
If she’s responding to you, not rejecting you, she’s either interested or in the process of deciding whether or not she’s interested. So talk, listen, ask questions, open up. Pay attention for anything you both have in common and focus on that. She’s a human being, just like you.
9-a. BRING YOUR POSSEE
Three’s not a crowd when picking up women at bars or nightclubs. For women, there’s safety in numbers. Bring a friend, male or female, or a group of friends. You are more likely to get approached or meet women if there are females in your group. It raises your social proof by showing other women that you have been pre-qualified by your female friends.
9-b. KNOW WHEN TO LEAVE YOUR WINGMAN
While being in a group can help depressurize the pick-up situation, it can also work against you if you are lumped with your friend or friends all night. The woman you’re trying to pick up may feel intimidated if she sees herself on display before your friends. Once you can tell things are going well, take her aside for a private talk, go for a walk around the club, ask her to dance. The goal is to establish a more meaningful connection with her.
10. KNOW WHEN TO QUIT
Don’t overstay your welcome. A woman may be interested enough to have a quick conversation with you but not enough to spend all night with you. If you’re sure it’s going somewhere, stick with her. If she’s getting restless or looking around, maybe checking other guys in the club, get her number or give her yours, and move on. If she’s not responding to you, don’t waste your time.
To Sum it all up
Remember to always be respectful, and never hit on another man’s woman. Even if you end up not hooking up that evening, being surrounded and enchanted by beautiful Puerto Rican women will be an experience you’ll never forget. Good luck!